I knew even before the old man walked in that he was going to be a pain in the ass. You can just tell with some people. Not because he was old– although that’s usually not a good sign– but because he had that confused mien that people always seem to have when they’re about to take up a lot of your time and irritate you. I willed him not to come in, or to make it short, but no dice there. He was all mine.
He walked in and asked where Long’s was, and I told him that it hadn’t been in the building that still said Long’s for a couple of years. He was looking for engineering supplies. Eventually, after a few minutes of telling me about how his daughter said she’d get him an engineering notebook and how that was seven years ago, I told him that Long’s had moved. It was now a Barnes & Noble (isn’t everything? ). If he’d walk just a few blocks south, it would be on the same street. I didn’t think then that a man who was at least in his sixties probably didn’t consider five blocks a jaunt so much as a trudge.
He said, “I don’t suppose you’d be familiar with their line.”
Why yes, sir, I frequently find it convenient to know exactly what our competitors stock at all times. “No.”
It’s kind of amazing how many people expect me to know the inventory of stores I don’t work in. I nodded politely as he went on to talk about engineering notebooks and how, if you had just a pad, the pages were likely to come loose, and sometimes you had to go to court, and those pages were evidence, and he knew that because he’d had to find some automotive engineering work he’d done, only the pages were loose, so they’d been lost, so he couldn’t imagine why his daughter would think he’d need something like an engineering notebook. I rolled my eyes when he turned his back and waited for him to shut up and go away. I had a book in my lap and a sheaf of work on my desk. I knew I wasn’t going to be able to work on either while he was there, because pain the ass people need you to focus on them while they get their shit together.
Finally, blessedly, he made to leave. He thanked me for the information in a voice that I wasn’t sure wasn’t sarcastic. Nothing occurred to me while he was there. It was after he left that the irritation cleared, and I thought about how old people always seem to want to tell you more than you need to know, about how they seem to think every precious hour is story time. Maybe part of it was that presumed authority, that “I’m old, so you’ll listen to what I have to say, you goddamn kid.” You see it germinate in the attitudes of certain middle-aged women who have children and thus seem to see everyone under 25 as some sort of analogue for them. You’ll do what I tell you to do, young lady, or so help me I’ll call your manager, and just you wait until he gets home!
I wish I could say everything else had occurred to me before the old man left, that I had my sad little moment of clarity while he was still there and had had a storybook change of heart. Unfortunately, my introspective processes often lag a few minutes behind current events, maybe because my brain is too occupied with the difficult and tedious protocols of human interaction. What I really feel doesn’t catch up until later.
It wasn’t until a few minutes after he’d walked out that I thought about what it must be like to be old. I wondered if the old-people habit of talking too much and overexplaining– a habit I share myself, I realise even now– stems from a perceived position of authority, or if maybe the fucking guy was just lonely and wanted to talk to someone. I’ve read a lot of books, and I can imagine a lot of things. I can imagine sitting at home alone, because I do that. I can imagine thinking that young people, who nod and smile at you but whose eyes gleam with suppressed aggravation, are a bunch of little bastards. I do that, too. I can’t imagine having kids. I thought about his daughter after that old man walked out, and I wondered if she treated him like a burden, if she rolled her eyes and sighed at him and, “Yes, dad, I’ll come get you. What do you mean you don’t know where you are? Look at the fucking street sign. Okay, I’ll be there in a few. Stupid old bastard. Should have him put in a fucking home.”
Maybe that’s not how his daughter treats him. It could be she’s a perfectly nice lady and that she did, in fact, get him that engineering notebook seven years ago. Things slip your mind as you get old. Your brain doesn’t work so well anymore. Your body either. Your hip hurts, your feet hurts, hell, your everything hurts. You’re looking down the wrong end of a spyglass with your life seeming very small in the other end. We hate old people for lots of reasons. They’re slow, they’re fussy, they talk and talk– and they remind us of what we have to look forward to. I don’t mind the thought of being old so much, but I definitely mind the thought of what comes after that. I can’t imagine having it stare me in the face every day, the face I recognise only because it’s changed with me over the years, a face I can still remember as relatively smooth and unlined. I don’t want to think about it.
And that’s the trouble with stories. It’s frustrating when you want so much for things to keep going, and it’s surprising when things seem to go on so intently that you have to run to catch up. Once you have one, you kind of have to follow it. Sometimes it goes places that you don’t want to go.